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Anonymous asked: This might sound a little weird (I wonder how many times you've heard that), but I want to explore and try some new foreplay techniques with my partner. Something that's recently become a little intriguing is the idea of being tied up (I'm a little embarrassed just typing this because I don't really know who to talk to or how people would react if I mentioned it). I suppose I'm curious as to if this is something you've tried and if so, how would/did you bring it up to your partner?

hahaha i do hear that all the time.

first of all, congrats to you for being adventurous. sex is super fun. secondly, i don’t really talk about my sexual/foreplay preferences online (or to anyone other than my husband haha), so i won’t tell you what i have or haven’t done in the bedroom - but i will tell you that if you really want to try something, go for it. and as far as how you “bring it up”, that depends on you and your partner! take the same approach as how you talk to them about anything else in your personal or sex life. if it works for you, be dead serious and say “lets try this next time we have sex!” or bring it up as a 70% joke/30% serious and see how he/she responds. or, if it fits you two, you could always just surprise him/her and see if they’re up for it in the moment. (and by ‘surprise’ no i don’t mean smother them and handcuff them to see if they like it, haha. i mean pull out the handcuffs or ties and say CAN WE DO THIS!?) at the end of the day, it’s really awesome to be able to talk about these things openly and not be embarrassed about what you want or have been thinking about. chances are, your partner has been thinking about it or something else already. just takes one person to start up the crazy. :) 

* and disclaimer, as always: never pressure someone or be pressured into something you/they don’t want to do. and don’t hurt anyone or yourself. be sure you’re safe, always, and if you have questions, ask first.